Confidence & low self esteem
Jad felt like a ds on the ground.
02:00 confidence is like a termostate that limits us to accomplish things.
When women are asked they want a confident man.
What does it even mean? Reality is if we ask 100 people we will get 100 different answers.
I hated when people said oh just be more confident. Or just be yourself.
05:00 you are confident already. You just dont have access to it.
Imagine a house is burning with your family inside. Would you need affirmations in the mirror and motivation?
You did it because you had to do it. You dont need to be brave etc. you had an immediate transformation.
Confidence is the ability to cooperate with lifes challanges
10:00 you need tofind out a why a why but You dont have the fire under your ass. We are not motivated by life and death motivations.
11:00 we will break down self esteem into 6 parts to apply daily into our lives.
Nathanial Branden – Six pillars of self esteem
He wrote 20 books about this topic. He spent 70 years studying. We stand on the shoulders of a giant.
13:00 when you are studying anything first define it. Make sure it is tangable.
Confidence is a feeling or a belief that you can do sth well or succeed at something.
Feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities.
Self esteem is feeling worthy of happiness. Feeling being able to coop with basic challanges of life.
Low self esteem people feel unlovable. They feel unworthy. They feel like noone should love them.
17:00 JAD HAS BEEN THERE. You can talk to him.
First skill for woman is presence. Second is confidence.
19:00 womens core need is to feel safe. They feel safe in the presence of a stronger man. She need to evaluate him as more powerful to feel attracted.
She looks for a man she cant overpower or manipulate. They will test you all time about if you walk your talk or bend when she wants.
23:00 being powerful is not optional for attraction. A woman wants a man who can take care of her and challanges.
Everything you want is outside of your comfort zone.
You sont need to lie to woman if they like you wnough thry will lie themselves
Everything in life either is getting stronger or weaker. There is no staying still. YOU NEED CHALLANGES. You need to face them enthusiasticly over long time.
More challange ypu face you water your plant more. If you cut challanges out, you cut water.
Men arent built for comfort and laziness. Who you really are at your essence is infinite potentiality.
Kaderini yasa ve challangelara at kendini gucunu korumak icin. Limit yok zihnin disindaz
29:00 there is always a consequence for skipping over a challange you know you should have faced.
Dont be mistaken to think that you can sit down be lazy be safe and let challanges go by thinking there is no cost.
Not facing your fears always have a cost. Your self eateem is getting smaller.
31:00 jack in the beanstock. Think of your self esteem like it. Challanges are gift to water your plant. Water your plant enthusiasticly.
Your willingness and ability to take action in front of challanges will determine your success or failure more than other factors
Act in despite fear is linked to joy. A man controlled by his fears is incapable of feeling joy. It is untouchable to him.
If a man found himself completely disconnected from joy, his only aim in life should be to go out and face as much as challanges as you can.
If you feel like no matter what you do you can feel joy, its because you spent too many years in your comfort zone not facing challanges.
33:00 step out of bubble consistently. No way around it. You cant buy, hire anyone for you to face it.
You need to face your dragons yourself.
Self esteem, fit body and instrument playing cant be purchased.
34:00 As long as fear own you you will be incapable of joy no matter what
If you dont face your fears as a man your fears will own you. You will walk around with a dark cloud, weight of world on your shoulders.
Jad knows because he has been there. He couldnt feel anything.
Only way out is to face fears ready or not.
Life is challanges. Own it embrace it. It is seed to confidence. Challanges are gifts. I am so grateful for life to provide me with so many challanges. It provides me control over my happiness.
37:30 how to raise your self esteem specifically?
All great truths are simple.
Pillar no 1: practice of living conceously
Pillar no 2: practice of self acceptance
These are not concepts to learn and memorize. They are practices!!! You need to do these daily.
41:00 no3: practice of self responsibility
No4: prac of self assertiveness
5: living purposefully
6: practice of personal integrity
Perfection is not needed while practicing. Actually doing more that what you were doing is required. Increase by %10 if you want.
Hollywood transformations are not real. Lasting transformations happen through long term practices.
43:00 you dont need to do crazy thing tomorrow. You just need to take one step out of your bubble at a time. Small things done well day by day month after month. Year after year.
44:00 self esteem is sum of all choices you made up to this point. Your self esteem is thereflection of your life so far.
Imagina a boy bob. He likes girls. However he always let his fears hold him back from sction. 10 years later bobs self esteem is very low.
It is very low because It is a perfect reflection of choices he made over years.
I understand and accept laws of universe when explained in this way. I also liked it is impossible for you to take action and no reaction. Your efforts cant go to waste as long as you meet minimum requirement (water pump)
What we didnt do, what we failed to do has a consequence as much as the ones you did. Lack of action hurt your self esteem even if it didnt feel so.
46:00 self esteem is the reputation you have within yourself.
If you are a fraud, nobody knows but you know, it will affect your self esteem. If you know you did sth wrong that will hurt your self esteem.
REPEAT THIS: self esteem is reputation you have with yourself. Self esteem is sum total of your choices you made.
If you choose to step out of your bubble and see challanges as wonderful gifts. You choose to conquer your fears whether you fail or not your aura and self esteem will be high. Every choice you make will either increase or decrease your self esteem. Choose conceously.
49:00 Live conceously. Presence is first requirement to live and make choices. You need to be awake and aware.
Living unconceously is normal way of being today. Look around and do the opposite is the formula of success. Very often crowd is wrong. They are on their phone, social media, check emails, laptops open, tv.
They are distracted. You cant be present when you are distracted in the presence of hyperstimulation from social media and junkfood.
I dont have to be available to my parents all the time. Close your door, turn off your phone and focus on your customer list even if you have 1.5 hours.
The less aware you are, less likely you will make the right choice when the challanges rise.
You are either in reaction in life or a cause in life. You cant control life but you can be proactive in life.
53:00 You must make presence most important thing in your day.
People dont even check if their ladders are leaned against the right wall or not.
Dont think you are smarter or special than others. You need to do exact same things. You cant get away with less.
54:30 stop junk from entering your brain. You dont need to check email, social media 10 times a day. Check after your work finishes. Set time for multitasking. Live intentionally.
